In our present society, people might become more enthralled with falling in love than keeping together in love, building up a family. Lots of people love to become in love, but have a different idea about love than we as Christians do see love, or how love is projected in the Bible.
It can be said that in reality true love is experienced in the everyday moments of life and can be felt in the little things of life. The Nazarene masterteacher Jeshua ben Josef, better known as Jesus met with a variety of people as he went about daily routine. He taught Mary in her home, calmed the storm as the disciples sailed on the sea, healed people as he traveled from city to city, and humbly served each of his disciples by washing their feet. His love found expression in the mundane moments of life as he journeyed with others. He demonstrated a love full of service and sacrifice, not fireworks and fairy tales.
Love’s expression is patience and kindness, full of humility and hope. It is not self-seeking, envious, arrogant, irritable or rude. Love pursues the unlovable and bears all things. Love is all about being prepared to be there for someone else, without expecting something from that person. We give to others what we have first received in Christ:
“This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another” (1 John 4:10-11).
For sure, many of us have wild dreams of love. Romantic love is a wonderful thing, but it is secondary and dependent on a greater source. If the divine romance is neglected, our earthly friendships, families, and marriages suffer the effect. As C. S. Lewis said so well,
“When I have learnt to love God better than my earthly dearest, I shall love my earthly dearest better than I do now. Insofar as I learn to love my earthly dearest at the expense of God and instead of God, I shall be moving towards the state in which I shall not love my earthly dearest at all. When first things are put first, second things are not suppressed but increased.“
We should remember the example that Jesus gave. He loved us so much that he gave his life to liberate us from the curse of death.
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13).
We should not only be willing to accept that offer Jesus gave to the world. We should let that love of Christ come into our hearts and have it increase our love for others. We should seek to share Jesus his love with others and have our love for his teachings inspire us to inspire others. At the same time, it should give light to real love, which can make us love a person of the other sex in such a way that we want to be bounded to that person until death departs.